How to Deal with Premature Ejaculation
Premature ejaculation is a very common problem faced by men all over the world today, maybe next only to baldness. But while baldness begins occurring only after men have crossed a particular age, the big problem with premature ejaculation is that it can start happening at any time, even among young men who have just started a sexually active life.
There is actually no particular answer as to what defines a healthy duration for sex. Some people say they can carry on for 15 minutes, some say 5 minutes, some even lesser than that. But, what you have to understand here is that there isn’t any fixed duration that you need to be chasing. Good sex means different things to different people.
That said, premature ejaculation can really put a dampener on the couple’s entire sexual experience. The woman remains dissatisfied because her man came too soon and had to withdraw while the man feels unhappy because he came too soon due to which he did not receive the full pleasure of the sexual act. Additionally, the look of dissatisfaction in his woman’s face makes him feel low as well. If this continues, the man might feel he is inadequate and that could create a giant inferiority complex in him.
So, how do you deal with premature ejaculation?
The first thing you have to remember is that your problem may be more psychological than physical. It may be all there in your mind. Most men are nervous when they have sex, especially when they are doing it the first time or if they are with a different woman. When they are nervous, their psychological balance is upset and they cannot maintain control. They let go, quite literally.
Perhaps the only thing you need to learn is how to relax. This can help you regain better control on your sexual life.
A good idea is to use the stop and start technique. You need to get your partner to help you with this. Penetrate her, and when you are just about to come, withdraw. Quickly think about something nonsexual which will make your erection go away. Then, let your partner get your aroused again and penetrate her again, but again withdraw just before you are going to let go. Repeat this a couple of times. You will find that when you eventually have your orgasm, you release much more semen and your experience becomes thunderous as well.
Desensitizing creams are available in the market, but they are not recommended. They numb the experience for you as well as the woman and you might get addicted to them. You don’t want a condition when you never want to have sex without a desensitizing cream.
You could also try out some penile exercises and techniques such as hypnotism, which could help you with freeing up your mind and having a better sexually charged life. As it is, when we are talking about coping with premature ejaculation, we are trying to condition the mind rather than the body.